When we feel comfortable in our own skin we feel that we are OK, that we can handle whatever might happen and that there is nothing to fear. There is inner contentment and faith in oneself.
It's about knowing where we want to be and moving towards this whilst being comfortable with where we are right now. It's about enjoying the journey and being comfortable with what we don’t yet know. It's about trusting that life will provide for us as and when needed.
It's not to be mixed up with being in our ’comfortable zone’ – this is dependent on outer things being in ‘place’ and familiar. This requires us to take up defensive positions. In order to keep our happiness in 'place' we have to maintain the stability of our outer circumstances, only we end up feeling heavy and tired rather than light and enthusiastic about life.
We limit ourselves to living within what we perceive to be our capacity rather than experiencing inner freedom and discovering our potential. If we want to feel more comfortable in our own skins we need to challenge our comfort zones. In fact life itself wont leave us in our comfort zone forever - life wants us to feel comfortable in our own skins.
Step back
When there are ten people throwing stones into a lake its whole surface is covered in ripples. It is only when they stop and step back and the ripples subside that we can see reality again.
Listen
In order to become more comfortable in our own skins first of all we need to begin to listen to ourselves with honesty. We can ask ourselves: What is it that my heart needs to feel fulfilled? What makes me truly happy? How do I want to be? Am I aligned to my values?
Also, we need to be more attentive to life. Check out: What message is this person or situation bringing me? Often the answer is actually in our reactions, these are our signposts telling us what it is we change if we want to become more comfortable in our own skins.
Appreciate
When we think or speak negatively about anything our subconscious records this feeling. The same is true when we appreciate, this feeling is then recorded within us. The more we appreciate the more we increase our feeling of well-being and increase our immunity to negativity. We are building up our own inner support structure. So, how much time do you spend appreciating others and what is working as opposed to criticising or complaining?
Add Love
How much of what we do, do we do with love? A sign that love is missing in our actions is that they begin to feel repetitive and we find ourselves saying, ‘What’s the point?’ When love is present contentment grows. It may be that to add love we need to slow down, however, the return of adding love is much greater than the return of efficiency.
Real Self-Respect
Feelings of discomfort are connected with ego. Ego wants to prove itself, be seen as knowing everything, be in charge, be self-indulgent, feel sorry for itself, be praised… Discovering our true self-respect brings us back to our true nature and values.
It's about knowing where we want to be and moving towards this whilst being comfortable with where we are right now. It's about enjoying the journey and being comfortable with what we don’t yet know. It's about trusting that life will provide for us as and when needed.
It's not to be mixed up with being in our ’comfortable zone’ – this is dependent on outer things being in ‘place’ and familiar. This requires us to take up defensive positions. In order to keep our happiness in 'place' we have to maintain the stability of our outer circumstances, only we end up feeling heavy and tired rather than light and enthusiastic about life.
We limit ourselves to living within what we perceive to be our capacity rather than experiencing inner freedom and discovering our potential. If we want to feel more comfortable in our own skins we need to challenge our comfort zones. In fact life itself wont leave us in our comfort zone forever - life wants us to feel comfortable in our own skins.
Step back
When there are ten people throwing stones into a lake its whole surface is covered in ripples. It is only when they stop and step back and the ripples subside that we can see reality again.
Listen
In order to become more comfortable in our own skins first of all we need to begin to listen to ourselves with honesty. We can ask ourselves: What is it that my heart needs to feel fulfilled? What makes me truly happy? How do I want to be? Am I aligned to my values?
Pay AttentionHappiness is our compass.
Also, we need to be more attentive to life. Check out: What message is this person or situation bringing me? Often the answer is actually in our reactions, these are our signposts telling us what it is we change if we want to become more comfortable in our own skins.
Appreciate
When we think or speak negatively about anything our subconscious records this feeling. The same is true when we appreciate, this feeling is then recorded within us. The more we appreciate the more we increase our feeling of well-being and increase our immunity to negativity. We are building up our own inner support structure. So, how much time do you spend appreciating others and what is working as opposed to criticising or complaining?
Add Love
How much of what we do, do we do with love? A sign that love is missing in our actions is that they begin to feel repetitive and we find ourselves saying, ‘What’s the point?’ When love is present contentment grows. It may be that to add love we need to slow down, however, the return of adding love is much greater than the return of efficiency.
Real Self-Respect
Feelings of discomfort are connected with ego. Ego wants to prove itself, be seen as knowing everything, be in charge, be self-indulgent, feel sorry for itself, be praised… Discovering our true self-respect brings us back to our true nature and values.
When we are comfortable in our skins and content we don’t feel any need to demand anything and this leaves us able to live life in such a way that it brings benefit to not just ourselves but also to all those around us.Love, peace and joy are our spiritual make-up.
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